Feather & Twine

WEDDING PLANNING GUIDE

We are so happy you’ve chosen us to be a little part of your story. It’s not lost on us the importance of these moments, and the magic we’ll get to experience with you. We truly could not be more grateful, and we are ready to bring all of the good vibes and help you guys make this day everything you’ve dreamed of! So, welcome to the Feather & Twine family, we are so happy you’re here.

As a team, we have photographed over 250 weddings (including planning our own). We see your stresses, your struggles, your joys. We understand the complete mix of emotions wedding planning can be in this transitional phase of your life! We want to give you more of those moments of joy, and fewer moments of stress, by giving you some advice and showing you some amazing resources & vendors. We want to bring up questions and thoughts that maybe haven’t crossed your mind, so you can start in these early stages making your wedding unique to you.

No doubt there is so much more advice online, but these words are from our personal experiences and we hope they can help you save some time in at least one area! So you can get back to planning date nights and focusing on your relationship, instead of only thinking about the wedding. We are constantly updating this, so please check back in whenever you have a question!

So as you scroll through this guide, imagine us right next to you (with a plate of cookies, Bon Iver on vinyl in the background, and a huge smile on our faces), helping you through each part of the process step-by-step.

WEDDING ARTISTS

Below you’ll find some super talented wedding artists. Everyone listed below is someone that we have worked with personally and can attest to their awesomeness, or admire their work and feel that their outlook on weddings is similar to ours. Most are based in Texas (if they aren’t in Austin specifically, most vendors will travel); but we do also have a Destination section where we have some of our favorite vendors in the US, with the state in which they operate listed next to their business name for our couples outside of TX. If you’re having an international wedding, or even getting married in the US but need more help to find your specific team, we’d love to help you curate a wedding artists!

Creating a wedding day team is the ultimate collaboration. Hiring wedding artists you feel confident in, trust and who know what they’re doing is the best way to ensure that not only does your wedding day run smoothly, but that you can be fully present to enjoy this surreal day. We recommend setting up a time to hop on a Zoom, phone call, or grab coffee to communicate your vision and get to know the artist behind the business. It’s invaluable to get to know someone’s story and aesthetic so much better than what emails will let you!

If you feel a connection to someone’s work but they don’t live where you do, reach out anyway because they may be super excited to travel to you!

OUR FAVORITE ARTISTS

WEDDING DESIGNERS & PLANNERS

Bird Dog Weddings
XO Moreau Weddings
Wild Sky Events
Andria Leigh Events
Westcott Weddings
36th Street Events
Upton Events
Saunter Weddings
Ivory & Vine Event Co (& Elegant Elopements)
Birds of A Feather
Hayden & Co Events
Lott Of Events

VIDEOGRAPHERS

Peyton Frank
Little Gray Films
Henry Weddings
David Le
Here After Films

FLORISTS

Remi + Gold
Clementine Botanical Art
Davy Grey
The Farmer & I
Blumen Floral Co
Earl Grey Floral
Rebel Floral
Olive Grove Design
Color Theory Design Co.
The Loved Co.
Open Road Florals
Root and Bloom

HAIR & MAKEUP

Makenzi Laine
LOLA Beauty
Crown of Glory Beauty
Hello Flawless Artistry
Hey Lovely Makeup
Meagan Betchel

DRESS SHOPS & INDIE DESIGNERS

Unbridaled
A & Bé Bridal Shop
Shop Gossamer (Vintage & Handmade)
Blue Bridal
Serendipity Bridal
Blush Bridal Lounge
Odylyne the Ceremony
Elizabeth Leese Bridal (custom)
Lovely Bride
The Dress Theory
BHLDN
Second Summer Bride
Mywony Bridal (on Etsy)

BRIDAL ACCESSORIES

New Phrenology
Opal Milk
Twigs & Honey
Olivia the Wolf
Mignonne Handmade
Naturae Designs
Maison Sabben
Sara Gabriel
Liv Hart
Jennifer Behr
BHLDN
A B Ellie

BRIDESMAIDS

Revelry
Fame & Partners
Jenny Yoo
Reformation

PAPER GOODS

Isidore Augustine
Seniman Calligraphy
Art & Alexander
Jen Krause
Esther Clark
Boarding School Collective
Carta Plena
Peach Paper TX
Ivelisee Designs
Fine Day Press

RENTALS

Loot Vintage
Table Manners
Coral Lane

MUSIC

DJ Gatsby
DJ Nixx
9th Son Sound (DJ for weddings under 50)
Dart Collective
Lonesome Doves
Love and Happiness Band
PDA Band

PHOTOBOOTHS

Vannagram
Silver Cloud Trailer Events
Oh Happy Day Booth
The Photo Bus
Smile Booth

DESSERTS

Morgan Pearl Cakes
Feathers & Frosting
Michelles Patisserie
Coco Paloma
Walton's Fancy & Staple

CATERING & BARTENDING

Peached Tortilla
Pink Avocado
Contigo Catering
Lucky Lab Coffee Truck
Lick Ice Cream Truck
The Cosmo Camper
Sourced Cocktails
Creature Coffee

DESTINATION

The Wild Mother - OKC
The Loved Co. - LA
Offerings. Co Florals - LA
Color Theory Design Co. - PDX
K. Hancock Events - SEA
Jenn Chez Design - LA
Hart Floral - PDX

SPECIAL DISCOUNTS FOR OUR COUPLES

REVELRY

A free swatch pageF&TSWATCH

Their first Home Try-On sample free: F&TSAMPLE

$10 OFF a final dressF&TFINAL

*fun fact: we’ve shot all of their newly launch campaigns & product images for 2020!

MINTED

20% off 
(if you’re interested in this, send us an email and we can upload the image/card you’d like to our storefront, where you can then order to get the discount!)

GETTING INSPIRED

When you’re at the beginning of wedding planning, it’s important to spend some time getting inspired together and envisioning the ways that you can make your wedding day as personal and unique to you as possible!

We’d recommend starting by sitting down and separately listing out the following:

1. Each of your our top 5 priorities, in order.
2. A list of three words that describe how
you each want the wedding day to feel.

Combine your lists, and voila! You already have an idea of where to prioritize your budget, and you have a jumping off point for your visual design.

MOODBOARDING

While we definitely think you should stay in your dreamlike bubble as long as possible and prioritize coming up with ways to make your wedding personal out of your own imagination and creativity, mood boarding can be a helpful way to communicate your vision with your wedding artist team! There is a certain point in wedding planning (once you’ve started solidifying the vision), that we think you should cut out Pinterest completely. It can get you caught up in a comparison trap and, it’s true what they say: comparison is the thief of joy.

As an option, we love to collaborate with our couples on mood boards for their wedding day. Since we spend every day in the wedding world, we spend a lot of time absorbing unique approaches to wedding design that can be helpful; but, we mostly love getting to start envisioning your wedding the way that you are! It’s like getting a window inside your minds, which is really cool! It’s not something you are required to do, but it’s there for you as an option!

To see some examples, and start getting inspired, check here:

 

SPRING    SUMMER    AUTUMN   WINTER

TIPS FOR MAKING YOUR WEDDING PHOTOS BETTER

Prep

Timeline

HAIR & MAKEUP

A hair & makeup trial is essential. You can schedule it before engagements or a bridal session so the makeup doesn't go to waste. Be sure to tell them before, so if hair adjustments need to be made for engagements they can be! If you're doing a bridal session, we also recommend doing a trial bouquet! It can be smaller than what you'd get on the wedding day, but we think bouquets really add to a bridal session!

LIP COLOR

If you love a bold lip, just remember that the brighter the color the more you see where it’s rubbed off (i.e: your hubby’s face at the first kiss, on your upper lip and chin, faces if you’re giving cheek or forehead kisses, your teeth etc). So, we highly recommend going with a lighter colored lip! In 250+ weddings, we have never seen a bold lip stain be impervious to rubbing and moving and messing up the rest of your makeup!

WEDDING DAY STYLING

If you want an invitation lay flat, they do take a little bit of time (we usually need about 30 minutes). But, feel free to bring any accessories you might have (if you have extra ribbon from your bouquets, ask your florist to set aside some flowers, a ring box (The Mrs. Box is our fave!) or dish, vow books, a love letter, etc), or even set aside an extra tablecloth that we can use as a backdrop, and we’ll combine it with our own styling kit. Also **ask your florist to add styling florals to your floral order**. Be sure to let us know what you have brought, or have it all together when we arrive on the wedding day!

CHOOSING A VIDEOGRAPHER

This is the question we get asked the most, "how is it for ya'll working with a videographer?" It's obvious to say we work most closely with the videographers & planners on the day of. My best piece of advice is to only hire a videographer that you really

FAMILY PHOTO LIST

We'll send you a questionnaire for your family list about a month out, but some people are a little confused about how this works! Basically, you are listing out each posed family photos you would like. Each family dynamic is very different, and this just makes sure that nobody is left out and that you guys don't get roped in to 45 minutes of unplanned groupings because you can't remember the photos you wanted! Want a picture with your parents, or siblings, or just a big group photo with all family? Those are things to add to the list! We start with the biggest groupings and pair down from there.

TIMELINE

Though we have a timeline questionnaire we’ll send you, if you have us for 8 hours then we’d recommend budgeting about 30 minutes for each photo section of the day: 30 for first look, 30 minutes bridesmaids/groomsmen, 30 minutes wedding party, 30 minutes family, 30 minutes post-ceremony photos, etc. as you start creating the bones of your timeline. For all day coverage, you have much more flexibility and we can have a little more fun with the timeline! Don’t hesitate to reach out with questions! We want everything to be as beautiful and relaxed as possible.

UPGRADING YOUR COVERAGE

Once you've got your timeline fleshed out and you realize that you want to add a couple of hours or upgrade to all day coverage, just let us know! You'll need to add that on before your final payment (at 14 days out), so we can ensure that we are prepared with the right amount of equipment!

CEREMONY

Before you set your ceremony time, reach out to us and we make sure that'll work with the sun direction! When choosing your ceremony site, you're looking for shade, even light, or the sun positioned behind you and slightly off to the side. We don't recommend choosing a spot where the sun is directly behind where one of you will be standing at the ceremony, as then one person will be staring directly in to the sun. Plan a visit to your venue around the time that you're wanting to do your ceremony and scope out how it could actually look. Oftentimes we notice that even the smallest shift could've made the images 1000x better.

TOASTS

Don’t plan your toasts during dinner! Food in your teeth and chewing shots make it hard to get real candid reactions, both from you & your guests! Wait until after dinner is over or do it before sundown if you’re having an outdoor reception, nobody wants photos of them with a mouthful of food.

YOUR MARRIAGE

We probably don’t need to tell you that prioritizing your relationship and preparing together for your future marriage while wedding planning is super important. But, we’re going to anyway! GUYS. IT’S SO IMPORTANT!

Here are some of our personal favorite resources that have been so exponentially helpful in our marriage! We hope you can find them just as useful and inspiring.

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

THE APOLOGY LANGUAGES

THE ENNEAGRAM (shorter version)

THE PATH BETWEEN US

NOBODY TALKS ABOUT THIS PODCAST

CUSTOMIZE YOUR CEREMONY

Your ceremony is the biggest, most important part of the day. This is the most vulnerable and emotional part of the day, and it is beautiful. I truly felt that our ceremony (and reading our handwritten vows to one another) not only further bonded us together, but also bonded us with our guests because they got to witness a part of our relationship that is usually more private.

I think a lot of people get uncomfortable expressing those emotions in front of others and rightfully so, but we are here to encourage you to go for it! You won’t regret it. It will be so powerful, everyone will be crying right along with you. That’s another reason why we’re big fans of only inviting the people who you truly love and couldn’t imagine them not being there, because then it doesn’t feel overwhelming – you know every person there so it really just feels like a big hug! And don’t forget to walk down the aisle slowly to take it all in!

In the following section we’ll talk about customizing your ceremony to make it unique and planning it around the lighting of the day.

LIGHTING 

To make your ceremony photos as great as they can be, here are some lighting tips to think about when choosing your ceremony location. We encourage you to go to your venue and choose your own ceremony location! Just because you’ve only seen ceremonies done in certain areas doesn’t mean that’s where you have to get married.

For us, if you’re getting married outside, the best case scenarios are back-lighting (ideally slightly not centered) & shade. The sun coming behind the guests is also okay! The WORST CASE SCENARIO is the sun being pointing directly in one of your faces, while the other person is in full shade. Not only will your images not turn out as beautiful as possible, one person’s experience of the ceremony won’t be fully enjoyable because they’ll be staring in to the sun. So don’t pick a spot that will have direct side lighting! The second worst case is half of your bodies being shaded by a tree, but the rest being full sun. We want even light so there aren’t distractions from the emotions because of splotchiness or weird lighting! When you’re at your venue, think back on your engagements and the different lighting directions we chose!

If you’re getting married inside, the lighting scenario you want to avoid, is having your ceremony in a darker space directly in front of a big, bright window. You’ll be silhouetted from the light, making it difficult not only for us to photograph you but also for your guests to see you properly!

But, rest assured, we’ve photographed in pretty much every lighting situation imaginable, so feel confident we can work with whatever you choose, it just really varies the quality of the photos we are able to get at your ceremony. We just want to make it the best it can be for you!

Tip: Check out the Lumos or Sun Scout app to get the sun’s location at any hour. 

TIMING 

Your ceremony should start no less than 90 minutes before sunset, based on a standard 20-30 minute ceremony. That will have the sun dipping below the horizon a few minutes after your intro in to the reception, which leaves us time to do your bride & groom photos during the beautiful golden hour. It also makes sure that if it is a dark cloudy day, we’ll lose about 20 minutes on the tail end of the sunset time, and we want to make sure that doesn’t cut out any photo time!

If you are having an outdoor reception, we suggest moving your ceremony time up so you have more of your reception in the daytime (like your dances during the glowing sunset, or your dinner during the cozy blue hour). There are so many options!

If having your ceremony at sunset is a non-negotiable for you, you will need to do ALL of your photos beforehand (first look, wedding party & family), and position the start time of your ceremony 45 minutes before sunset. If you don’t, and it’s cloudy or your ceremony gets delayed for any reason, there’s a chance you could be having your first kiss in the dark! Personally, we think sunset ceremonies are overrated (unless you’re right on the beach) and having your ceremony before “sunset”, but still in golden hour, is just as pretty and logistically more accommodating!

Even with a first look, we always, always recommend for our couples to take 15-20 minutes with us for some sunset photos after the ceremony (or during the reception, if you’re getting married in the summer or having an afternoon reception). It’s a really relaxing, fun, decompressing time for you to soak in all of the ceremony profoundness and then take a second of pause before heading in to the high energy of the reception! You won’t regret building in these little moments of intentional time spent together, we promise.

CUSTOMIZING

Our favorite part of our wedding day was the ceremony, and a huge part of that was because we wrote every single bit of it together. It felt insanely sentimental and intentional. Every single word felt like us, and encapsulated the commitments we were making to each other. There’s a beautiful symbolism to choosing every single word of your joining ceremony, just like you will continue to choose each other every single day of your marriage & relationship.

It’s hard to for us to put in to words how much we think you should consider writing your own ceremony, or at the very least tailoring it to fit you & your fiancé! At the very least, write your own vows! It’s all difficult, and intimidating, but let’s be honest: marriage can be too! It’s worth it in every single way. Starting your marriage, day one, being vulnerable and honest about what you dream of for your marriage, and what you want to celebrate about your unique love story, and words that will guide you during the hard times, is truly so special. We also recommend trying to find someone you know and care about to officiate the ceremony, it really adds to the personal and intimate feeling of the ceremony! Plus, it makes for some really special memories for you guys.

We obviously had experience listening to hundreds of different ceremonies before getting married, but we also just spent endless hours googling wedding ceremonies and picking and choosing parts that resonated with us, and making up our own promises to each other (like, for the ring exchange)! Since we didn’t have a wedding party, we also had some important people read some passages from our favorite books and poems, focusing on love and life.

Here were a few of our favorite resources for ceremony research:

CHECKLISTS & TEMPLATES

We get it, there are a lot fo moving parts when it comes to planning your wedding day. Lots of different people you’re having to coordinate with, and get information to. We want to make your experience with us relaxing and stress free.

So, all we’ll need from you are:

ADDRESSES & NAMES OF LOCATIONS

TIMELINE

FAMILY PHOTO LIST

We’ll send you a questionnaire about your timeline 6 months before your wedding date, as well as answer any questions you have when you start to create it! We’ll also send you a questionnaire for your family photo list a month before your wedding day. So keep your eye out for those!

PRO TIPS: + If you are planning on exchanging gifts or letters before the ceremony, be sure to add it in to your timeline to make sure it happens after we arrive so we can capture it if that’s something you want! + If you’re going to have any surprises happening at the wedding, give us a heads up before so we can plan accordingly! OR, if you’re planning on a shorter or choreographed first dance – they require different set ups from us, so it helps to have a heads up beforehand!

WEEK OF CHECKLIST

There’s going to be a lot going on the week of the wedding, so here’s a list of frequently forgotten things & tips to help you stay organized!

+ Organize all jewelry in separate bags, to avoid tangling.

+ Keep bridal shoes and accessories (don’t forget undergarments!) together in a tote bag.

+ Label decor by categories in individual boxes to make setup easy (i.e. cake table, escort table, welcome table, table #1, etc)

+ Send timeline & family photo list to us, if you haven’t already, as well as your close family members, MOH and Best Man. That way they can help keep everyone on the same page without having to ask you!

+ Organize all ceremony readings in journals or vintage books, instead of loose paper, binders or tablets. It looks SO much better in ceremony photos.

+ Wrap gifts, write cards and keep them all together in one box or tote bag.

+ Create a “getting ready” playlist for the day of. You can check out some of our playlists for inspiration over on Spotify.

+ Arrange breakfast and lunch for the wedding day, or ask someone to take care of that.

+ Pack extra medicine, even if you don’t think you’ll need it (include Advil, allergy medicine, Sudafed and Pepto – to help with nerves, migraines, etc!)

+ Practice reading your vows aloud to your girlfriends to calm your nerves!

RAIN PLAN:

If it looks like rain for your outdoor ceremony:

get some white or clear acrylic umbrellas online for you & your wedding party (so the umbrellas won’t block any light on your faces); send out a text PSA to your close family and friends (have them pass the world along) for your guests to bring their umbrellas.

If you have a hairstyle planned where your hair is all down, but you know it just doesn’t do very well in the rain (hello, humidity!), considering switching to a loose updo!

Then, just get married outside! Even if we have to delay 15-20 minutes for a storm to pass, that’s nothing if it’s your dream to get married outside!

DAY OF CHECKLIST

Have these items ready to go for us on the day of, to maximize our time! 

BRIDE

Your dress & veil

Shoes

Jewelry (necklace, earrings, bracelets, rings)

Perfume

Undergarments

Invitation Suite

Vow Book

Any special/heirloom items or ribbon for styling

GROOM

Suit/Tux

Shoes

Accessories (cufflinks, tie/bowtie, pocket square)

Vow Book Boutonniere

“When I woke up the morning of our wedding day, I laid in bed with my eyes closed and mediated on the way I wanted to feel. I told myself that this was the day we’d been waiting for and hoped I could relax, absorb and appreciate every moment – and that’s exactly what happened. I left feeling like I remembered every minute because I took time to set that quiet intention before the day began. So, take a moment for yourself, and put some good vibes out in to the universe the morning of your wedding to help you feel centered and joyous.” – Kelsey

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